Online Relationships

Online relationships

Healthy kinky relationships may start with a shared interest in a type of play like spanking. But just because two guys share the same kink doesn’t mean they’re on the same page. That’s not just true about spanking play—it also applies to everything else they’re looking for.

So, as you’re looking for the right spanking connections, some tips to help you foster good kinky buddies (or more):

Be honest about what you’re looking for

Not everybody on Whappz is looking for the same thing. Some guys are looking for long-term kink-focused relationships. Some guys are looking for buddies they can have spanking fun with in a more casual fashion. Some guys are already in relationships with a partner who doesn’t share the kink and are specifically looking to have that spanking itch scratched. And some guys are happy just to talk and roleplay long-distance spanking scenes.

All of these are valid pursuits, and Whappz is happy to host all these different people as they seek out spanking partners. But it’s important to be honest in your profile about what you’re looking for here. When you start a conversation with somebody else on Whappz, it’s important for them to know whether you’re looking for a fun time, if you just want to chat, or if you’re looking for something serious.

Starting a conversation

If you send somebody a message based entirely on the fact that you think they’re hot and you haven’t read their profile, don’t be surprised if nothing comes of it. Not everybody fills out their whole profile, but if they have, be sure to read it and see if the two of you are looking for similar things.

When you decide to start a conversation, it’s very helpful and appealing to indicate something about their profile that drew your attention. It also establishes that you’re genuinely interested in this person and are considering whether the two of you are compatible for spanking play.

In the event a person’s profile doesn’t say very much, and they did just post images that you find appealing, maybe open by asking them what they’re interested in and what they’re looking for on Whappz.

What to avoid in opening messages

Asking what they’d do to you. As a first message, this (whether you mean it or not) signals that you’re only interested in sexy spanking talk and not actually meeting. That can be fine for people who are only looking for chat, but don’t send this as your very first message to somebody you don’t know looking for actual play partners.

Telling them what you’d do to them. Just because somebody likes to be spanked doesn’t mean they want to submit to just anybody for punishment. Few guys want a complete stranger to send a message describing a scene they may have no interest in. It’s a very quick way to get yourself blocked.

Asking them to unlock private photos. They’re locked because they only want people they know and trust to see them. It’s a warning flag that suggests you’re only interested in downloading and getting off on their private pictures.

Calling them “Sir” or “Boy” or “Daddy” or “Son.” Not all men into spanking are into these roleplay dynamics and it’s not respectful to assume that they do. Don’t assume a top wants to be called “Daddy” or “Sir” unless they specifically say so in their profile. Same for bottoms.

Asking them if they were spanked growing up. This is an unsettling turn-off for many people when a stranger asks them about their childhood spanking experiences. Some men may have positive memories. Some have very bad memories. And some have none. Whether a person has a spanking fetish has no relationship with childhood experiences. Sending this message to a stranger is likely to be seen as intrusive and will get you ignored or blocked.