Creating an Effective Profile
Welcome to Whappz! And welcome to the male-spanking community if you’re new to the scene and if you’re new to kink.
It can feel confusing and intimidating at first to find men to connect with for spanking play. This guide is intended to help newcomers navigate the complexities of the fetish scene and avoid some common pitfalls.
You’ve probably already set up the basics of a profile before you’ve read this. But if you’re not entirely sure what to say, here are a few tips.
What is it what you want, exactly?
If you’re on Whappz you’re looking to give or receive spankings—or both. But that’s as vague as saying you want to go on a date. Spanking play can involve roleplaying a misbehaving boy and a disappointed dad or a reckless driver and an angry traffic cop. It can involve a man who lost a bet paying it off with swats to his quivering butt. It can just be for fun. It can be for real reasons. It can be very hard or fairly light. It can lead to sex, but it doesn’t have to, and some men do not want to combine spanking and sex.
It's okay if you don’t know yet what you’re looking for. Part of coming into the spanking scene is experimenting to find out what you like and don’t like. But if you know you have fantasies or playstyles you want to explore, be sure to include them in your profile. They help other people who share your spanking fantasies find you and know that you might be a good match.
Profiles that don’t give any indication at all of what you want are less likely to get responses or draw interest.
Be honest about who you are and your expectations
Many people use Whappz and other online kink connection sites for the direct purpose of meeting people in person for fetish play—to spank, be spanked, and other activities.
Some others are interested more in chatting about their kinks, expressing fantasies, and even roleplaying out scenes through messages or phone calls or video chats. They do not necessarily need or want to meet in person.
All of these approaches are valid, and you don’t even have to choose between them, but it is important to be forthright about what you’re looking for. If you are only looking to chat or roleplay, make sure your profile reflects it and be clear that you’re not likely to meet (though you may change your mind in the future if the connection’s right). Also understand and respect that some here are your exact opposite—they’re looking to Whappz to plan actual spanking play and are not interested in roleplay or just chatting.
It should go without saying that you shouldn’t mislead or lie on your profile, but also, remember to go back periodically, look at your profile, and update it to reflect changes in your play interests. Update photos over the years, and otherwise make sure you’re keeping it up to date. People notice when profiles are updated regularly—and when they are not.